What is self sabotage?
Nadya Andreeva addresses this subject as the behavior that we continue to do even though it hurt or damage us. Indirectly we might feel bad after it, or we will regret it, but we can not stop doing it.
It is very important to evaluate if goals are realistic, if during a treatments you get better with the support of the herbs and then you forget and go back to where you started. Any disease is the result of a bad habit, in most of the cases, so without eliminating the root cause (bad habit) the herbs will cover them up, but will remain. Are you walking the Ayurvedic walk, living aligned with the Ayurvedic wisdom, your true nature?
Why we sabotage ourselves?
1- Many people think that they law of nature, the natural biorhythm doesn’t apply to them. They think they can get away without exercising, clean balanced food, possitive and nurturing thinking, etc.
2- We identify ourselves with our thoughts, emotions and cravings, we think we are powerless against them or without them.
3- Our environment isn’t supportive, is full of unhealthy temptations. Rajasic and tamasis influences.
4- We think someone can fix our health for us, so we can keep doing what we do; this point of view is supported by modern medicine so people do not take responsibility for how they feel.
When you want to work in the idea of changing a habit, we need to make sure that the motivation and the inspiration is strong enough, having very clear why we choose to do what we are doing, to explore the idea of transformation or liberation, and the relationship between the sense organs, attention, cravings, prana, mind and our actions.
What drives us to do what we do on daily basis, the idea of driving towards transformation, and on sabotaging behaviors. Also the role of Budhi in manas (mind) determines the level of success in becoming free in self-sabotage.
Mind and responsibility:
Create good habits which support you in the way you want to feel, and create an environment which makes it easier. We are identifying with our thoughts cravings and emotions, and then we react based on them. Ayurveda addresses that thinking is an object for the mind, since it can be observed. So the wrong use of the mind can create abnormal mental conditions while the right use of the mind creates mental stability.
Because thinking can be an object, thoughts, emotions, feelings can be observed, so instead of a reaction, we always have a choice of how to behave, so even if there is a trigger or craving, you are not powerless against it.
How Ayurveda sees the mind?
The mind transcends all perceptions, it is known as satva, it actions is determined by its contact with Jiva and the objects that reside in it. Charaka S. Sutra 8.4
So we part from the base that our mind is pure and healthy, but through conditioning and living in a rajasic or tamasic world gets affected.
- Ahamkara – I, Ego
- Manas – Emotional conditioned mind which carries reactions and interprets everything.
- Budhi – (higher and lower aspects) Intellect. Analyses and reflects, making conscious choices, and has the power to self-observe.
- Shita: Unconscious or subconscious
And then we have the five senses which we use to perceive the world which influences our mind. They are always active interacting with the world and affecting manas.
The pathogenic factors in the body are Vata, Pitta and Kapha and in the mind rajas and tamas. Since manas (mind) is very sensitive and impressible can be imbalance easier and faster. Any strong memory, emotions, stress, trauma, change, etc create a conditioning and a reaction. When we try to change habits we need to consider two things:
- What mental dosha is dominating (Vata, Pitta, Kapha)
- What guna (quality) is dominating in the person and in the environment. (Satva, Rajas, Tamas)
Understanding mental dosha is very important to know what this person needs for motivation and how this person will be inspired to change. Understanding the gunas will guide you in what and how to change.
- VATA: They love stimulation and discover new things and ideas, going beyond their boundaries. Creativity and colours is very important.
- PITTA: They are happy working towards the personal achievements of clear goals that challenges them, give them recognition, they are quick, sharp and fiery. Calendars and lead-times help them during the process to stay focus short term.
- KAPHA: They live for the well-being of others, with strong community and family orientated. They are steady, methodical, towards security, and stability. Changes can be done quickly,
In dual types you need to recognize which one is the dominant one, so you can adjust the speed and the way to them in order to help them achieve what they need and that they are comfortable during the whole process
- Sattva: Creativity, flexibility, compassion, kindness, openness, caring and loving aptitude. Optimal state.
- Rajas: Dispending, energetic, confused, undirected, ambitious, motivated and goal orientated. Needed for achievements.
- Tamas: Delusion, dullness, manipulating, unsure, depressed, deceiving, lost of interest or motivation.
Environment and the person should fall under Sattva for a healthy state and avoid to sabotage ourselves towards positive actions and choices. If a person is tamasic, he / she needs heat to move into rajas and from there can go into sattva progressively.
They affect our mind, keeping it busy and active. They are the way from our center to the outside world. In Ayurveda Raga (passions or desires) are one of the main obstacles to help and grow. In the Yoga sutras we can find the statement that raga causes pain and misery. The opposite will be non-attachment.
Having strong addiction/desire, our happiness become dependent of getting or achieving something, that is the opposite of freedom. That attachment ends it controlling you.
How to feel joy without being attached?
Developing sense acuity and preventing over-stimulation (through strong tastes, strong emotions, loud music, social media), enjoying more of the simple things, without feeling that our happiness depend on this desires or attachments. This doesn’t mean that you should not enjoy 4 course organic meals full of flavor, but also, that you are ok, with a simple neutral balancing one.
Manas (mind) is very impressionable and it is emotional and conditioned, based on emotions and feelings, pleasure or pain, it creates conditioning and habits. It will keep behaving the same way when the trigger is there and perceived through the 5 senses, only through buddhi (intellect) we can make a choice not to act (react) in a conditioning.
- What activates Manas? Stress, non clear repeating patterns, being tired, not eating enough, your mind will try to save sources and choose for the same patterns, family situation, over stimulation of social media bringing prana (vital force) down and your senses out, and becomes harder to make a conscious choice. Being to much in your head and being busy with contradicting theories, also brings confusion, makes it hard to stick to one thing.
- What activates Buddhi? Buddhi (intellect) allows you to consider the interest of your future self, to be full aware and as result to make actions that are aligned to your goals. It is activated in a calm environment, through meditation, mantras, disconnecting from over-stimulation, self-reflection, learning to observe detachment, and being mindfulness.
- How to train your mind? working on non-stressful environment, moving through your day having values and meaningful goals, eating and drinking mindfully, can become a beautiful practice. Having positive affirmations, find the elements in your food, repeating mantra brings conscious up, living a live aligned to the biorhythm, waking up with the sunrise, interacting with the cycles of nature, feeling new moon and full energies and using them along, the attention and intention helps to cultivate satva and activate buddhi. First establish your state of being, then act. Connect with your duty, establishing equanimity, moving gracefully along the day, having a regular morning practice with positive intentions, that helps you to live in satva.
How to grow ojas and avoid Prana depletion?
Prana (is connected to whether we are able to change for what is good to us, so it gives us good power of attention and foccus) and Ojas (our vitality and inner strength, is directly connected with tejas, inner fire, will power, and helps us to stay in control of our life (in a good sense) and hold together all the parts of our being.
In order to cultivate prana and ojas we need to bring our attention inwards, through meditation and pranayama to stay focus towards our goals. To grow ojas we need to make sure we have good agni, through deep sleep, fresh and proper breathing, cleansing and resting at night, proper nutrition, and certain herbs like brahmi, jatamansi, and tulsi.
The correct way to use our mind:
- Observing thoughts, emotions, feelings, and viewing them as objects.
- Surrounding your self with a sattvic environment and people,
- Avoid triggers, over-stimulation, having quite time and space