After reading Ayurveda and depression, you might want to understand what are the emotional conflicts behind depression. The feeling of hopelessness could be as a result of feeling aggressiveness not expressed or channeled, which unconsciously was redirected inwards. It could also be due to the fear of both, life and death as well. Often there is a feeling of guilt, low self-esteem, and recurrent negative ideas and thoughts. Frequently related to the fact of wanting to take pressure off out of their life’s. Then, they make a “de – pressure”. The person often doesn’t believe that has the right to feel anger. Despair.
- Usually, there is an identity conflict.
- The conflict between the ideal and the real.
- A conflict between who we are and who we would like to become.
- Depression is ¨to not feel pressure¨, so they are especially affected by the pressure.
- Pending conflicts to resolve with his or her progenitor of the opposite gender. Unconscious ¨attacks¨ to his/her partner, in whom is established the transfer of the rooted emotion. (As an example is very common to see in this case how this person makes her partner feel. Indirectly and unconsciously the partner is treated as what he/she wanted to do to his father or his mother, but it did not happen since he/she restrained her/himself.)
By refusing help, the depressive person continues to feed his resentment or anger towards that father or mother and sinks into their pain. The severity of the depressive state reflects the intensity with which the wound was lived as a child. The wounds can be the following: rejection, abandonment, humiliation, betrayal or injustice.
This person often had not many people to talk to in his childhood, who would listen to her/his questions and her/his anxieties. Most probably did not learn to trust others, as a result, he/she blocked his/her desires and finally fell back on itself while increasing their feeling of anger.
In general, the depressed person does not want to be helped or ask for help, so there is an underlying expectation on those in the surroundings as if they should try to solve their problems. If a loved one has depression and you see this clear pattern, I suggest you to be very firm telling her/him that nobody in the world can get her out of the situation, except her/himself. The most important thing is that there are acceptance and responsibility.
Rejection during childhood, could origin depression which could cause great pain and suffer later on in life. The most common wound is rejection or fear of being rejected. The person must admit that even if was rejected in childhood, this does not necessarily mean that the father or mother would not like her. The father who rejects his son was probably rejected when he was a child and still rejects himself. Feeling compassion for that father and forgiving him is the beginning of the road towards healing. The same goes for the mother or the familiar involved.
Then, after understanding, the most important stage is to forgive yourself for having loved that father so much and not being able to understand the whole picture. Only then, one thing that remains is to express these feelings to the father (when possible) without any accusation in between. It is very human to hold a grudge or laugh when one is a child and the isolation is intensely suffered. On the other hand, bio-decoding suggests that this person should take the decision to recognize their own value. If you find it difficult, you can ask those who know you well, they can tell you what they see on you.
Our thoughts create the feelings, so changing our thoughts, our patterns, our conditioning and our way of thinking we could change the way how we feel.
New mental model:
Overcome and go beyond the fears and limitations of others.
I believe in my own way of doing and living life.
How to address the emotional conflicts behind depression
1- Use deep relaxations to ease the mind. The person should make reconciliation with his/her goals in life, without entering into those negative thoughts. Wake up the motivation to follow the steps to make it happen, in order to fight for what you want or wish. Self-connection is the key to identify the goals and causative root.
2- The treatment, in this case, is basically mostly the glandular system. The areas of the pituitary, the thyroid, the adrenal, the nervous system, the pancreas, the spleen, the liver, kidneys, and thymus.
3- Color therapy: It is beneficial to use the Yellow color. During therapies, in your clothes, at home… That will help us to activate our Manipura Chakra linked to our ego, the digestion of emotions and gain strength connecting to our personal inner power.
4- Practice gratefulness. Make a list of all the positive things are happening to you. Every day 3 different ones, you will be surprised
Three different approaches to combat the depression; Western Medicine & Ayurveda depression (read that post) and through the emotional conflicts behind depression described in this post.
There are also some asanas that can assist during the process, you might want to read also 8 Simple asanas for the depression!
If you want to heal there are tools, be in charge of your life and ask for help! Nothing wrong with that. You are not alone, there are more than 400 million people in your place.
Wishing you all the best!